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2011年8月4日星期四
I am obsessed with my mom...?
-I neve go out late because i know my mom is home alone.. me and my mom are SO close and we are best friends, even though only my other best friend knows the real me, and my mom doesnt even know the real me i still feel we are so close. i would leave her side for anything. please help..No. You are not obsessed with your mum. I am close to my mum as well. When someone invites me to hang out with them on weekends or holidays, I always ask my mum if she is working on that day because i wouldn't want her to be home without me. She is also my best friend even though she doesn't know my real side. She says that she never wants me to go somewhere while she is still at home but I do want to go to places and I only stay home because of my mum. You would leave her side for anything? That's a bit mean. I wouldn't ever leave my mum's side unless its school or something important. I promised her many years ago that I would live with her until she died and that's a promise. If you really are obsessed with your mum then you should act like me but you don't so you are not obsessed with her.Cherish the relationship with your mother. My mother died when I was 11 (I am now 18) and it hurts more than anything, still to this day. She's gotta understand that you have a life to live though. Let her know you love her and don't let her forget it. Don't worry that you're overly obsessed, she's family and you two need each other.
My boyfriend never has time for me anymore! please give advice?
-My boyfriend & i are pretty young. He's 17 & working to save up for a car. Befor when are relationshipp was great he would say its so i could see you all the time but i dont think its a possibility when he's always working. I havent seen him in 3 months. He would usually come see me as much as he could by taking his moms car. He doesnt even try anymore & i dnt kno what to do or think. Please give advice & thank you.You should dump him if he doesn't have time for you. Boyfriends and girlfriends spend time together thats why they are together but if they aren't then they aren't suppose to be together and thats sorta like your relationship so please take my advice to a happy life and dump that guy and find someone else.he could be sidetracked by work, etc. But to stop communicating more than likely means he found something or someone else to be more interested in. Talk to him about it and if he seems sincere give it a little more time but don't wait forever, if he has moved on you should be able to as well.
He gave up on you, people change like that, its sad... but all of a sudden he felt tired of seeing you all the time and have to drive his way there to see you... guys like that they don't love you and would do what it take for the two.. should move on... i know its hard but you kno... you will be the one that hurts and waiting for nothin :( be strong ok? you can do it :)
Maybe he has someone who is readily available when he is off work. Getting your first car is really important to some guys, so he's willing to take what's available instead of you. Boy, that seems harsh, but it's probably the truth.
Tell him you'll make him a sandwich. It'll go a long way!
Dump the *****. He's clearly not worthy of your time.
long distance relationships never work ......so think about it nd if necessary move on with ur life......u r too young to be committed in a serious relationship. You will find plenty of better guys in the future.
talk bout it w him communication is key
He gave up on you, people change like that, its sad... but all of a sudden he felt tired of seeing you all the time and have to drive his way there to see you... guys like that they don't love you and would do what it take for the two.. should move on... i know its hard but you kno... you will be the one that hurts and waiting for nothin :( be strong ok? you can do it :)
Maybe he has someone who is readily available when he is off work. Getting your first car is really important to some guys, so he's willing to take what's available instead of you. Boy, that seems harsh, but it's probably the truth.
Tell him you'll make him a sandwich. It'll go a long way!
Dump the *****. He's clearly not worthy of your time.
long distance relationships never work ......so think about it nd if necessary move on with ur life......u r too young to be committed in a serious relationship. You will find plenty of better guys in the future.
talk bout it w him communication is key
My friends don't bother speaking to me during the holidays?
-It's 2 weeks in the summer holidays, and lately my main friends haven't spoken to me, I have a few other friends which I talk to normally but i'm much much closer to my main friends.
It seems i'm always the one to have to say Hi to start a conversation on Facebook, or in real life, if I don't start the conversation they could go all holidays without talking to me.
I'm fed up of looking out for people, contacting them first, when they don't return the favour. :-(
I see my main friends on fb talking to eachother all the time, and i just feel excluded.
I think i'm not going to talk to them, but hang out with my other friends & when i see them next at school I will tell them?
What do you think I should do?
Thankyou for your time! :-)If you feel it is always you making the effort, then it may be a good idea to back away for a bit and wait till you do see them or they make some effort!
It is no bad reflection of you if they are not getting in contact! It may just mean that they think of you as a good friend and reliable so know you are likely to speak to them, or it could be they just get wrapped up in other things and are a bit thoughtless to your feelings sometimes!
To see if they are worth you putting your effort into, I think you have got the right idea! As all you are doing is carrying on with your life and you are not actually blanking them, so you are doing nothing wrong!
If your other friends are nicer and stay in contact more, then I think it is a good idea for you to see them and stay in contact with them more!
Facebook is not always good, as if you were sat there with these girls and not at a computer they would not be ignoring you, so if they are good friends in real life that is the main thing!
I think you are doing the right thing, as you can then put your effort into your friends that make an effort with you! These girls may get back in contact with you before school if the penny drops they have not spoken to you for a while and they will have to put the effort in!
If they do not, you have nothing to worry about! As when yo usee them at school you can be friendly and pleased to see them + if any of them do ask why you had not got in contact you can explain you were busy with your other friends and had other things going on! You caould also add in a nice way 'You should have sent me a text to catch up!' or something along those lines!
I hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday with your other friends! The girls who you make the effort with probably do not realise how you feel and take for granted you will contact them! So this may do some good to put your effort into others and see what happens!
Hope this helps xxxxxxxxxxxxI am the same way..... But the opposite, for some reason people talk to me when I don't like Talking to people. For the people who don't talk to me, I leave them alone or give a simple "nod" or a "chin raise" when I see them in person. If my friends want to talk to me then they say hi first, if they dont I leave em alone. I say you do the same, if they want to say hi they will say hi. But it doesn't hurt to say hi first every once and a while
Im having the same problems as you!
The best way is to tell them how you feel. Maybe its just that they need some space. Give them some time and when you get back to school, you might find that they're a lot friendlier, and you guys can sort things out then. =) hope it helped
You should let them get on with it, if they don't make any effort with you then don't make any with them. They aren't worth worrying about, especially when you have other friends who do respect you. I hope you have a nice holiday.
I totally understand that behaviour. Well, honestly, you should just leave them alone and stick to those who truly like you. Those other friends don't deserve you :)
Never feel bad, kay? :D
I have the same problem! But eventually they talk to me but if they are becoming more distant then open your mind to new friends and wait a week when school gets back in to see what happens :) hope I helped
This has happened to me once but I just ignored the until they kept calling me, in the meantime do something you would enjoy which would help you forget about your friends for abit.
Well they don't sound very much like main friends to me. You should just dump them and stick with your other friends
Dump em and if a couple or sum comes back then they r ur true friends. Stay occupid with the 1s u talk to now
same thing here
they're not very nice x
This happens to me :( I have alot of friends but i dont really hang out with anyone outside of school except for my BEST FREIND. i only really talk to her outside of school but i always get jealous of her because she seems to have this great social life outside of school and I don't. BUT last week i decided i was gonna get closer to all my friends and i think you should try with me! Just try and talk to them more. Even if its just online :) start talking to them casually and eventually they will want to talk to you :) hope this helped :)
It seems i'm always the one to have to say Hi to start a conversation on Facebook, or in real life, if I don't start the conversation they could go all holidays without talking to me.
I'm fed up of looking out for people, contacting them first, when they don't return the favour. :-(
I see my main friends on fb talking to eachother all the time, and i just feel excluded.
I think i'm not going to talk to them, but hang out with my other friends & when i see them next at school I will tell them?
What do you think I should do?
Thankyou for your time! :-)If you feel it is always you making the effort, then it may be a good idea to back away for a bit and wait till you do see them or they make some effort!
It is no bad reflection of you if they are not getting in contact! It may just mean that they think of you as a good friend and reliable so know you are likely to speak to them, or it could be they just get wrapped up in other things and are a bit thoughtless to your feelings sometimes!
To see if they are worth you putting your effort into, I think you have got the right idea! As all you are doing is carrying on with your life and you are not actually blanking them, so you are doing nothing wrong!
If your other friends are nicer and stay in contact more, then I think it is a good idea for you to see them and stay in contact with them more!
Facebook is not always good, as if you were sat there with these girls and not at a computer they would not be ignoring you, so if they are good friends in real life that is the main thing!
I think you are doing the right thing, as you can then put your effort into your friends that make an effort with you! These girls may get back in contact with you before school if the penny drops they have not spoken to you for a while and they will have to put the effort in!
If they do not, you have nothing to worry about! As when yo usee them at school you can be friendly and pleased to see them + if any of them do ask why you had not got in contact you can explain you were busy with your other friends and had other things going on! You caould also add in a nice way 'You should have sent me a text to catch up!' or something along those lines!
I hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday with your other friends! The girls who you make the effort with probably do not realise how you feel and take for granted you will contact them! So this may do some good to put your effort into others and see what happens!
Hope this helps xxxxxxxxxxxxI am the same way..... But the opposite, for some reason people talk to me when I don't like Talking to people. For the people who don't talk to me, I leave them alone or give a simple "nod" or a "chin raise" when I see them in person. If my friends want to talk to me then they say hi first, if they dont I leave em alone. I say you do the same, if they want to say hi they will say hi. But it doesn't hurt to say hi first every once and a while
Im having the same problems as you!
The best way is to tell them how you feel. Maybe its just that they need some space. Give them some time and when you get back to school, you might find that they're a lot friendlier, and you guys can sort things out then. =) hope it helped
You should let them get on with it, if they don't make any effort with you then don't make any with them. They aren't worth worrying about, especially when you have other friends who do respect you. I hope you have a nice holiday.
I totally understand that behaviour. Well, honestly, you should just leave them alone and stick to those who truly like you. Those other friends don't deserve you :)
Never feel bad, kay? :D
I have the same problem! But eventually they talk to me but if they are becoming more distant then open your mind to new friends and wait a week when school gets back in to see what happens :) hope I helped
This has happened to me once but I just ignored the until they kept calling me, in the meantime do something you would enjoy which would help you forget about your friends for abit.
Well they don't sound very much like main friends to me. You should just dump them and stick with your other friends
Dump em and if a couple or sum comes back then they r ur true friends. Stay occupid with the 1s u talk to now
same thing here
they're not very nice x
This happens to me :( I have alot of friends but i dont really hang out with anyone outside of school except for my BEST FREIND. i only really talk to her outside of school but i always get jealous of her because she seems to have this great social life outside of school and I don't. BUT last week i decided i was gonna get closer to all my friends and i think you should try with me! Just try and talk to them more. Even if its just online :) start talking to them casually and eventually they will want to talk to you :) hope this helped :)
Is it not normal for me to not have any REAL friends?
-Over the past few months, I have been in and out of depression over the fact that I have no REAL friends. I have acquaintances, a wonderful boyfriend, and a best friend who lives a 5 hour car drive away... but there is no one I have to call a friend who lives close by me. No one to go shopping with, no one to visit or visit me, no one to help feel better or to help me feel better, no one to go on trips with, no one to have adventures with.... just no one. I'm not saying that I don't appreciate what I do have, because I do, but sometimes I wonder if I am not normal because of this. Sometimes, I feel like people have to have more friends than this. More people that they can rely on... I don't know, what say you others out there? And if it makes a difference, I am 24 :/19 year old. Been n and out of depression. Don;t have a best friend. Life is good.
Back in childhood, I had one best friend for each class. Then, when I grew old, 18 in my case, I realized that I don't need a best friend. Honestly, best friend is a very blown up concept. You say Monica, Phoebe and Rachel in Friends and you though best friends are as vital as cloth, food and shelter. And then , SATC made things worse. Carrie made all the girls feel like a pair of Manolo Bhalniks and a bitching session with a girlfriend can set everything in order. The truth is far from all this ostentatious display of affection.
My mom is 60, she can't name a best friend. She has no one to go shopping with or to call in the middle if the night. But, she has been successifull, a career lady, she never had regrets about not giving enough time to friends. I had a best friend. This was two years ago. Now she is 2,000 km away and being best friends any longer doesnt really make sense.
I have a boyfriend now and I totally love him. In a way, he is my best friend now. Going shopping with, anywhere or visiting people is a social drudgery. I feel stuffed when I go shopping with people. More often than not, I end up spending MY money on what THEY think is good for ME. Feel good lady! A best friend or real friends is just a social conformity like being tall, tiny-waisted and fair. Forget it, your life is good. Dont brood over it anymore.Well that's good that you have a best friend, even though she's about 5 hours away..maybe you could try to be better friends with your acquaintances. If you want friends, you need to show yourself as friendly. If you talk to them more, and express that you would like to get to know them better, you will become better friends with them, I can pretty much guarantee you.
Yes, this is normal. In reality, people only have one or two "true bestfriends". If people claim to have more, they're bullsh**ing themselves. By around 24 though, most people have figured this out. I suppose better late than never.
Na thats not so unusual..especially if you live in a small town, or dont work outside the home. Lets be honest, its hard to trust people nowadays so it takes a lot of time & work to build true friendships. Just be happy with what you DO have and try not to dwell on it. Look at it this way, you dont have to deal with near the drama or stress you would if you had a bunch of people depending on you to take their calls at 3a.m., or popping in on you unexpectingly, asking you pay for gas and rides to go on those trips/adventures/shopping with
Back in childhood, I had one best friend for each class. Then, when I grew old, 18 in my case, I realized that I don't need a best friend. Honestly, best friend is a very blown up concept. You say Monica, Phoebe and Rachel in Friends and you though best friends are as vital as cloth, food and shelter. And then , SATC made things worse. Carrie made all the girls feel like a pair of Manolo Bhalniks and a bitching session with a girlfriend can set everything in order. The truth is far from all this ostentatious display of affection.
My mom is 60, she can't name a best friend. She has no one to go shopping with or to call in the middle if the night. But, she has been successifull, a career lady, she never had regrets about not giving enough time to friends. I had a best friend. This was two years ago. Now she is 2,000 km away and being best friends any longer doesnt really make sense.
I have a boyfriend now and I totally love him. In a way, he is my best friend now. Going shopping with, anywhere or visiting people is a social drudgery. I feel stuffed when I go shopping with people. More often than not, I end up spending MY money on what THEY think is good for ME. Feel good lady! A best friend or real friends is just a social conformity like being tall, tiny-waisted and fair. Forget it, your life is good. Dont brood over it anymore.Well that's good that you have a best friend, even though she's about 5 hours away..maybe you could try to be better friends with your acquaintances. If you want friends, you need to show yourself as friendly. If you talk to them more, and express that you would like to get to know them better, you will become better friends with them, I can pretty much guarantee you.
Yes, this is normal. In reality, people only have one or two "true bestfriends". If people claim to have more, they're bullsh**ing themselves. By around 24 though, most people have figured this out. I suppose better late than never.
Na thats not so unusual..especially if you live in a small town, or dont work outside the home. Lets be honest, its hard to trust people nowadays so it takes a lot of time & work to build true friendships. Just be happy with what you DO have and try not to dwell on it. Look at it this way, you dont have to deal with near the drama or stress you would if you had a bunch of people depending on you to take their calls at 3a.m., or popping in on you unexpectingly, asking you pay for gas and rides to go on those trips/adventures/shopping with
What does this mean?? 10 points?
-i was playing a texting game with a boy and i asked him if he was a freak. He said i handle my business. What does this mean? Also he was asking me the freakiest questions like are you a virgin(i said yea),then he said when do u want to lose it,and are you a freak. What does all this mean? Especially the i handle my business thing? Im not sure if age matters but im 16 and he is 18. I started the game but he started with the freaky questions.My first question was when do you go back to school, then he came with that then i came back with those same type of questions.Let me start by asking a few questions too. I know your ages (or what he says is his age), but do you KNOW this guy, like face-to-face? Are you 'real world' friends or just texting?
The fact that he jumped straight from going back to school (your question) to virginity (sex) would make me a little suspicious of him. I know us guys, especially when we are teenage guys, are able to turn any conversation towards sex at times, but that was pretty quick. By the way, pat on the back for keeping and admitting to your virginity! I think the guy might actually be propositioning you for some kind of sex stuff (based on the 'do you want to lose your virginity' question) and are you a freak sounds like he may not be thinking about the common male/female sex experience.
My advice, back off from him. At the very least, be very careful and aware of what you may be getting into. And especially, if you do not know this dude, do no agree to meet him or go anywhere with him, especially if no one else knows about it!Don't tell him anything. Especially if he knows what your name is and where u live. He's trying to get personal information from you.
if ur not gay, he probably is unless its da opposite or both of u are,.
hes proably a sex offender
H:onestly I wouldn't do anything with him like I can't say not to have sex with him but thatKs all he probably wants to have sex with you and then he will leave or talk to you for a while so he can still used you for whenever its a good time for him. Other reasons why not to have sex yet I'm a teen mom I always said oh I'm not going to get pregnant and here I am with a 1 year old baby I don't regret it but it would have all turned out better after I graduated and got my life together you know .
Second for him saying I handle my buusiness he might mean he knows what he's doing when he has sex , or he's using girls to have sex , I can't stop you from doing it if you were thinking about it but if 8 was you 8 would wait and if not be careful. CONDOMS break and things happen sometimes . Sometimes things don't happen for a while because your not ready. I had sex but was I ready for the consequences well good luck girl think what's better for you ... Any questions feel free to ask
All he wants is in your pants n trust me you dnt want that. It may seem that way cuz u want him to like you but once you give it up to him, he will be gone! That's all men! And some females! but as far as the freak thing goes ignore the question that is so stupid. How would you know your a freak if your a virgin? And the I handle me business part, he sounds ignorant trying to play you dumb cuz your a kid. Besides your too young to even be thinkin bout this stuff or talking about it for that matter. Wat has this world come to?
The fact that he jumped straight from going back to school (your question) to virginity (sex) would make me a little suspicious of him. I know us guys, especially when we are teenage guys, are able to turn any conversation towards sex at times, but that was pretty quick. By the way, pat on the back for keeping and admitting to your virginity! I think the guy might actually be propositioning you for some kind of sex stuff (based on the 'do you want to lose your virginity' question) and are you a freak sounds like he may not be thinking about the common male/female sex experience.
My advice, back off from him. At the very least, be very careful and aware of what you may be getting into. And especially, if you do not know this dude, do no agree to meet him or go anywhere with him, especially if no one else knows about it!Don't tell him anything. Especially if he knows what your name is and where u live. He's trying to get personal information from you.
if ur not gay, he probably is unless its da opposite or both of u are,.
hes proably a sex offender
H:onestly I wouldn't do anything with him like I can't say not to have sex with him but thatKs all he probably wants to have sex with you and then he will leave or talk to you for a while so he can still used you for whenever its a good time for him. Other reasons why not to have sex yet I'm a teen mom I always said oh I'm not going to get pregnant and here I am with a 1 year old baby I don't regret it but it would have all turned out better after I graduated and got my life together you know .
Second for him saying I handle my buusiness he might mean he knows what he's doing when he has sex , or he's using girls to have sex , I can't stop you from doing it if you were thinking about it but if 8 was you 8 would wait and if not be careful. CONDOMS break and things happen sometimes . Sometimes things don't happen for a while because your not ready. I had sex but was I ready for the consequences well good luck girl think what's better for you ... Any questions feel free to ask
All he wants is in your pants n trust me you dnt want that. It may seem that way cuz u want him to like you but once you give it up to him, he will be gone! That's all men! And some females! but as far as the freak thing goes ignore the question that is so stupid. How would you know your a freak if your a virgin? And the I handle me business part, he sounds ignorant trying to play you dumb cuz your a kid. Besides your too young to even be thinkin bout this stuff or talking about it for that matter. Wat has this world come to?
I Don't Know What to Make of This?
-Some friends and I went out of town to enjoy a 3-day event. As with any event, it usually starts around a certain time, so it was important to get there, punctual-wise. I and another friend were waiting in the hotel lobby for the rest of the gang. Well 3 other friends were taking their time coming downstairs. I got upset and started venting to the friend, she seemed to understand, and the day went on w/all of us having a good time. She (the friend waiting with me in the lobby) calls me to tell me that she was 'dissapointed' in me for 'getting upset', and that I shouldn't expect "people to do what I want them to do". So, now, she's distancing herself from me. Was I wrong to get upset? I don't know what to do. Any advice?No,you weren't!
explain to them that when there is a certain time that the event starts,all of them should be at their time.you dont want people to do what you want them to do.you just got upset because they didnt come at their time. also put more emphasis on that when you have "a date"(even if it is to go all together at the evend) you should be always at your time.if you dont,your friends wont feel able to trust you so your friendship will be destroyed.
I hope i helped:)
explain to them that when there is a certain time that the event starts,all of them should be at their time.you dont want people to do what you want them to do.you just got upset because they didnt come at their time. also put more emphasis on that when you have "a date"(even if it is to go all together at the evend) you should be always at your time.if you dont,your friends wont feel able to trust you so your friendship will be destroyed.
I hope i helped:)
I feel so stupid now and like I wasted so much time?
-I held a grudge with a friend for basically a year. She went away to study abroad for the first semester so we didn't talk much because of that. When she came back for the fall, I could've said something but I waited until after we graduated that semester. I pretty much ignored her and kept our interaction at a "hi" and "bye" level. Now that I've confronted her, she is going around spreading my personal business to her friends and making me look like the worst person in the world. I apologized for ignoring her but she didn't apologize for the initial things she did that hurt me. I can't stop thinking about this situation. It really blows. Was I too extreme in waiting so long to tell her? Is this abnormal? I'm working on being more forgiving and not holding grudges but it's just hard for me.You know what? Ignoring her does NOT give her the right to be telling everyone your business. That's just low class. And anyone with any intelligence and class is looking at her when she's being vicious like that and thinking exactly what I am, which is that she is out of line. I'm sure that most of them don't think you're a horrible person, unless they're really THAT impressionable, at which point, who cares abut someone so stupid.
People grow apart. You haven't done anything wrong from what I can see, and even though you ignoring her may have hurt her feelings, that does not give her the right to throw all your f*cking trust in her out the window.
You're only human. But when someone thinks that when you fudge a little bit and all of a sudden they have license to be a f*cking b*tch, that's a different story.life is too short to regret anything , the past is the past , try fixing things with her, tell her u were just to hurt to the point that u couldnt stand talking to her . tell her life is too short to be mad at anyone & that we all make mistakes . no ones perfect .
It is never good to hold a gruge or what she did to you, both of you went too far
I like your user name.
I encourage you to not even bother thinking that she is wrong, and going low. People normally say that forgiving puts you in a higher place, but I don't look at it that way. Look at forgiveness as something you know was hard for you to do, but are now happy to do it. It doesn't have to elevate you above others (this can lead to pride), it's just right and of God. If your endeavor to change is (as I hope) something to do with believing in Christ, just consider that you actually love to do right, which you hated, but now love because you honor your Lord.
People grow apart. You haven't done anything wrong from what I can see, and even though you ignoring her may have hurt her feelings, that does not give her the right to throw all your f*cking trust in her out the window.
You're only human. But when someone thinks that when you fudge a little bit and all of a sudden they have license to be a f*cking b*tch, that's a different story.life is too short to regret anything , the past is the past , try fixing things with her, tell her u were just to hurt to the point that u couldnt stand talking to her . tell her life is too short to be mad at anyone & that we all make mistakes . no ones perfect .
It is never good to hold a gruge or what she did to you, both of you went too far
I like your user name.
I encourage you to not even bother thinking that she is wrong, and going low. People normally say that forgiving puts you in a higher place, but I don't look at it that way. Look at forgiveness as something you know was hard for you to do, but are now happy to do it. It doesn't have to elevate you above others (this can lead to pride), it's just right and of God. If your endeavor to change is (as I hope) something to do with believing in Christ, just consider that you actually love to do right, which you hated, but now love because you honor your Lord.
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