-Over the past few months, I have been in and out of depression over the fact that I have no REAL friends. I have acquaintances, a wonderful boyfriend, and a best friend who lives a 5 hour car drive away... but there is no one I have to call a friend who lives close by me. No one to go shopping with, no one to visit or visit me, no one to help feel better or to help me feel better, no one to go on trips with, no one to have adventures with.... just no one. I'm not saying that I don't appreciate what I do have, because I do, but sometimes I wonder if I am not normal because of this. Sometimes, I feel like people have to have more friends than this. More people that they can rely on... I don't know, what say you others out there? And if it makes a difference, I am 24 :/19 year old. Been n and out of depression. Don;t have a best friend. Life is good.
Back in childhood, I had one best friend for each class. Then, when I grew old, 18 in my case, I realized that I don't need a best friend. Honestly, best friend is a very blown up concept. You say Monica, Phoebe and Rachel in Friends and you though best friends are as vital as cloth, food and shelter. And then , SATC made things worse. Carrie made all the girls feel like a pair of Manolo Bhalniks and a bitching session with a girlfriend can set everything in order. The truth is far from all this ostentatious display of affection.
My mom is 60, she can't name a best friend. She has no one to go shopping with or to call in the middle if the night. But, she has been successifull, a career lady, she never had regrets about not giving enough time to friends. I had a best friend. This was two years ago. Now she is 2,000 km away and being best friends any longer doesnt really make sense.
I have a boyfriend now and I totally love him. In a way, he is my best friend now. Going shopping with, anywhere or visiting people is a social drudgery. I feel stuffed when I go shopping with people. More often than not, I end up spending MY money on what THEY think is good for ME. Feel good lady! A best friend or real friends is just a social conformity like being tall, tiny-waisted and fair. Forget it, your life is good. Dont brood over it anymore.Well that's good that you have a best friend, even though she's about 5 hours away..maybe you could try to be better friends with your acquaintances. If you want friends, you need to show yourself as friendly. If you talk to them more, and express that you would like to get to know them better, you will become better friends with them, I can pretty much guarantee you.
Yes, this is normal. In reality, people only have one or two "true bestfriends". If people claim to have more, they're bullsh**ing themselves. By around 24 though, most people have figured this out. I suppose better late than never.
Na thats not so unusual..especially if you live in a small town, or dont work outside the home. Lets be honest, its hard to trust people nowadays so it takes a lot of time & work to build true friendships. Just be happy with what you DO have and try not to dwell on it. Look at it this way, you dont have to deal with near the drama or stress you would if you had a bunch of people depending on you to take their calls at 3a.m., or popping in on you unexpectingly, asking you pay for gas and rides to go on those trips/adventures/shopping with
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