I feel so stupid now and like I wasted so much time?

-I held a grudge with a friend for basically a year. She went away to study abroad for the first semester so we didn't talk much because of that. When she came back for the fall, I could've said something but I waited until after we graduated that semester. I pretty much ignored her and kept our interaction at a "hi" and "bye" level. Now that I've confronted her, she is going around spreading my personal business to her friends and making me look like the worst person in the world. I apologized for ignoring her but she didn't apologize for the initial things she did that hurt me. I can't stop thinking about this situation. It really blows. Was I too extreme in waiting so long to tell her? Is this abnormal? I'm working on being more forgiving and not holding grudges but it's just hard for me.You know what? Ignoring her does NOT give her the right to be telling everyone your business. That's just low class. And anyone with any intelligence and class is looking at her when she's being vicious like that and thinking exactly what I am, which is that she is out of line. I'm sure that most of them don't think you're a horrible person, unless they're really THAT impressionable, at which point, who cares abut someone so stupid.

People grow apart. You haven't done anything wrong from what I can see, and even though you ignoring her may have hurt her feelings, that does not give her the right to throw all your f*cking trust in her out the window.

You're only human. But when someone thinks that when you fudge a little bit and all of a sudden they have license to be a f*cking b*tch, that's a different story.life is too short to regret anything , the past is the past , try fixing things with her, tell her u were just to hurt to the point that u couldnt stand talking to her . tell her life is too short to be mad at anyone & that we all make mistakes . no ones perfect .
It is never good to hold a gruge or what she did to you, both of you went too far
I like your user name.

I encourage you to not even bother thinking that she is wrong, and going low. People normally say that forgiving puts you in a higher place, but I don't look at it that way. Look at forgiveness as something you know was hard for you to do, but are now happy to do it. It doesn't have to elevate you above others (this can lead to pride), it's just right and of God. If your endeavor to change is (as I hope) something to do with believing in Christ, just consider that you actually love to do right, which you hated, but now love because you honor your Lord.