WTF..what should i do? how should i feel?

-i just found out my bestfriend had an abortion. We're the best of friends since high school. It's just sad that she didn't come near me when, i bet, she needed me most. When the rumors started circulating in her school and my school earlier this year, she came to me and said it was all rumors. I just found out today that it was true. that she did underwent abortion. I read her messages with another friend of hers who accompanied her during the abortion. so much for being her bestfriend.i don't think this was anything to do with you being any less of a friend to her,

i to have had an abortion which had circumstances i won't go in to but i know how it feels and it is a horrifying uncertain emotional roller coaster

if she was pressurized in to the decision or maybe doesn't have a support network then she has probably felt trapped,

and maybe you are stronger than her so she might have felt that you wouldn't understand her decision or maybe you don't agree with abortion and she felt like she didn't want to let you down or disappoint you

you should talk to your friend and find out why she didn't come to you and express your feelings in a delicate sense as she will still be hurting and maybe a little messed up in the head by the whole thing

i don't think you should let this come between your friendship at all as you both have probably been through a lot together and have been friends for a long time

you wont truly find out why she made the decision to not include you in this and be there for her until you ask her straight out



i understand how your feeling as you are are a true friend and feel like you have let her down at her most time of need,

and if she cant give you a good reason for it then maybe you both aren't as close as you thought or just not anymore......which means she is wrong for never putting you in the picture in the first place



hope this helped

good luck :)If my bestfriend did that,id probably bee very annoyed,i see how you feel.

but the truth is telling yahoo answers isnt gonna do anything,talk to her about it,dont stress at her,obviously having an abortion isnt the most pleasant thing in the world. Ask her why she didnt tell you,why she lied to you. She probably wanted minimal people to know. But either the 'bestfriend' that accompanied her or herself/parents must of told people for it to be rumours. If her 'bestfriend' did tell people so much for her being a best friend.



I hope your ok and you two sort it out<3
She's probably broken from having the abortion so you should be their to support her even though you feel hurt yourself. Sometimes best friends can treat best friends like crap for a while but you're always there for them when they need you the most. If she's taking you for granted continuously you should have a talk with her. Also, maybe ask her why she didn't tell you even though you guys are best friends?



hope this helped. xx
I think that it was hard for her to tell you because your her best friend and she doesnt wanna lose that . maybe the perso she talked to had the same problem ( he aboration)maybe that person she was talking to has a baby or had a aboration like her. dont be mad at her (but is she a good friend though ) and just talk to her about it f she doesnt feel comfortable say its okay (: hope I helped.
Are you against abortions? Assuming your friends is aware of that, is it any wonder why she didn't come to you with concern over her pregnancy?



Unforntunately, when people are in trouble, many will seek out people who will tell them what they want to hear rather than what they should hear.
It might be BECAUSE you are her bestfriend and it would be harder for you and she didn't want to upset you and if she bought someone with her that she isn't as close to it wouldn't be so emotional for that friend as it would have been for you xxxx
maybe she didn't want you to know because she didn't want you to think less of her. And don't get into fights with other girls about who's best friends with who, it's immature