How do i stop my friend from self harming?

-Ok i apologize for the long story but you will have too read it all too fully understand



Well , where can i start -



Im 13 years old and so is she.This girl i know , who i am deeply in love with is self harming , i support her when she is down and she seems too act like i make things better , after she expresses how she feels (she self harms because she feels isolated from her family and that her family are disappointed in her) i talk too her and tell her positive things so she will no self harm when she is stressed. We had a relationship in june , but her dad says im not good enough for her & he made us split , she didn't want to but she felt trapped. I told her that i completely understood and i tried too tell her this over and over , but still she resorted too self harm. We talked about it and she promised she would try her hardest too stop



But things got really out of control



You see , i was raised in a abAbsoluteh*thole , and grew up around drugs , I myself became a drug dealer at 12 years old , becoz my dad died and my mum couldn't find a job and welfare is just not enough too live with. So i started dealing and brung mobringnto the house , i told my mum it was paper rounds and working at the local shop doing little errons. Things started heating up and alot of my friends got shot in a drive by and many died , i survied when she found out she got really worried about me , and again the only way she cold cope is self harming , now i feel responsible for the self harming.



My question is , should i just stop talking to her ? if she forgets about me she will not self harm over the drug dealing , or should i talk too her about and see if she can understand and try to get her too stop self harming ? I need advice im desprate i dont know what to do anymore



her parents DO know , i was with her in her house when they found out too support her and all her dad said was " Your a disappointmentment Jess i didn't think you would be a emo you should be ashamed"



Lets say i got very fuc*ing pis*ed off and went to hit him , he called the poilce and almost got charged for assault. She said she was happy i did that and in the heat of the moment we went to my house and we had sex although i did enjoy , i did see all of her cuts there was alot of them it reminded me how serious this problem is , we layed in bed for hours just talking bout her self harming and comforting her after about 2 hrs , she said she was in love with me and that when we was older we would move away together. (Sorry im sure you didn't want to know all that haha) She is seeing a counsellor but still continues too self harm , she is only holiday right now , so im trying to sort myself out and get tips too help her out



again i apoligize about how long this was , but i feel i needed too say this in detail for you too all truley understand this situation.



I know i have posted this numerous times but im not getting many answers and i keep missing out details



Thanks for all the answers



Stay safe



-KaiTell her to call you everytime she gets the urge to.you can't stop her. You just have to tell her you will be there for her if she needs you.
tell her to get a tattoo