Have you ever had a friend with benefits?

-have you because if you a have i want to hear you're story!I was friends with a girl for several years. Then we dated. I broke up with her and when it ended we became friends with benefits after a while (maybe a few weeks, I can't remember how long the interval was). She stopped it because it was too hard for her because she couldn't keep it on a strictly physical level, her emotions were involved or started to become involved again and this was too hard for her emotionally to continue to do because it wasn't just strictly sex for her. There were also emotions on my side because I would have gotten back together with her but she had a kid from a previous relationship and I just couldn't deal with the stress of having to take care of a kid (my subconscious rebelled at the massive responsibility it knew was carried with being a father to a 3 year old girl). I was so stressed out at the responsibility of having a kid all of a sudden at 21 that my kidneys started to seriously hurt because of the massive stress. This is why I broke up with her and also why I didn't get back together with her when we were doing the friends with benefits thing and still had feelings for each other.



The whole friends with benefits thing was a massive disaster because there was no closure to the relationship. With dating you can say you are officially dating and then you can say you are officially broken up and this gives boundaries, it gives parameters to a relationship and feelings that go along with it. But when you're doing the whole friends with benefits thing and develop feelings for the person then when the friends with benefits situation ends it doesn't feel like anything has ended, it feels completely unfinished and open ended and there's no closure to the feelings like there is with an official breakup of a dating relationship. So those feelings just stay there, not going away, which causes a lot of suffering. I experienced this, it was unpleasant. I wish I had known how emotionally important the parameters of a dating relationship were to being able to obtaining closure so I wouldn't get hurt and stay hurt.



So I strongly recommend that everyone avoid the "friends with benefits" situation. It's nothing but trouble and only ends up in either the other person getting hurt, you getting hurt, or both of you getting hurt. It's not a good idea. I mean, if a person wants to just date women and be a serial dater, that's one thing, but this is something completely different and far more destructive imho.



Best wishes :)Yeah, usually happens to me between girlfriends. There was a girl I liked, who was a non-relationship type, and she was really cute, and she liked me back (or she said she did) and so we hung our a lot and we held hands and cuddles and spooned, etc. (not kissed) but eventually she stopped talking to me haha but I didn't really care. I dont call it friends with benefits, I call it having a cuddle buddy :)
Yes a few and it was awful... I leaned my lessons at a young age threw trial and error



I am female, and I get attatched easily, where as the guy never wanted anything serious I would lie to my self thinking if we stayed this way maybe he'd change his mind...

then he got a girl friend and I became a just a friend, now we aren't frieds because his girl friend gets jealous.



It was cool while it lasted but thats just it.. it didn't last, it was a waste of my life, my feelings, a waste of a friend. Possibly gave me a bad rep.. not much of a friend I guess because with friends like that who needs enemys?
yes and i still do im 15 years old and last year i was in this class of a girl who was pretty hot but slutish

any way we became really good friends and we told eachother everything one day i slept over her house and i told her i was horny so she sucked my cock for me and then we had sex and that was also my very first sex any way were still best friends know but whenvever we want to have sex or feel horny we just go to eachother and ****
No. We are only poor gang, who force to work in early ages to have money to buy food. I think your a lucky one. So I suggest that you should thank god for the blessing.
Yes.

No details.

Friends respect each-other.
Yes,I'm glad they made a movie about it to lol