What advice could i give him?

-My ex called me today mad because of some family issues, he kinda took it out on me saying i don't care (which i never said) and that's he's tired of people giving him the same advice saying it'll be alright. He said that we would never understand....i told him how am i suppose to help u when u don't communicate with me and tell me what's going on...he just kept saying i don't care....i don't know what he wants me to tell him...but can anyone think of something i could tell him outside of it's going to be alright...i want to show him i love him and that i care...i just don't know what to tell him because he says i'm saying the same thing everybody else says....sos...thanksIt is hard to give advice when you don't know what's going on, or if you don't really understand someone else's situation. It isn't your fault that you don't understand, but your ex may feel frustrated because he may feel that nobody understands or cares.



When people say, "it's going to be alright," they probably mean to say, "you're going through a tough time right now, but you'll get through this and it will work out."



You could say something like, "I'm really sorry you're going through a difficult time now. I really can't give you advice on your situation, but I care and I'm willing to listen if you need someone to talk to." You don't have to say that in so many words, but get the general message across.



Try asking other friends who might know something about his situation and get their advice. Recommend advice books or uplifting books or articles that could be helpful.



Just curious, but does your ex listen to you or give you advice on your problems? Or is he self-centered and focused only on his own troubles?It looks like he just needs to vent. If everyone is advising the same thing, then it must be something that it's pretty obvious, but he's probably afraid to face it, so he's looking for some alternative solution which who knows if exists. Say no more, try DOING something to make him feel better.
Tell him "Okay, you came to me for help. Obviously you know that i care! why else would you come to me!"

He may also just be saying you dont care to get your sympathy and attention.
To argue with a man who has renounced his reason is like giving medicine to the dead.

-- Thomas Paine, The Crisis